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St. Luke’s Tells Cub Scouts They Have To Go

New rector Tim Rich says the church took the action because of the Boy Scouts of America’s policy excluding gay men and boys.

 


St. Luke’s Episcopal Church in East Greenwich, R.I., told Cub Scout Pack 4 last week it can no longer use church facilities because of the Boy Scouts of America’s reaffirmation earlier this summer of its exclusion of gay men and boys.

Pack 4 had been meeting in the St. Luke’s church hall for three years.

“We came to a unanimous conclusion that the appropriate response was to say to the institution that we as a community of faith cannot allow them as an institution to operate here and have their meetings here given that they have as part of their institutional policy discrimination,” said Rector Tim Rich of St. Luke’s in an interview Thursday.

Rich, who assumed the rector position in June, said he was disturbed by the BSA reaffirmation that same month that gay men and boys are not be allowed in scouting.

“From the lens of faith, which is how I view things, it rejects that certain of God’s children are unworthy to be included,” said Rich. “It’s quite the modern-day representation of everything I think Jesus fought against. So, from a faith standpoint I just really reject their decision.”

Rich met with the Vestry – the church’s lay leaders – and they voted unanimously in favor of his decision.

“If we’re going to talk the talk, we’ve got to walk the walk,” said St. Luke’s Senior Warden (head lay leader) Arlene Serdakowski. When asked if she thought it would turn some people off from St. Luke’s, Serdakowski said no.

Jeff Lehoullier, Pack 4 Cubmaster, said he understood the decision but that it put the pack in a difficult position.

"I understand the decision but it happened right before school started so we’re scrambling to find a way to meet," Lehoullier said. "I don’t agree with the Boy Scout policy. I’m a parent volunteer trying to provide fun activities for the boys every month."

He said Pack 4 doesn't discriminate. "Our little group is not discriminatory either. We don’t check credentials at the door."

Narragansett Council, the BSA affliate for Rhode Island, said in a statement it has challenged the national organization to make a thorough review of its policies.

"The Narragansett Council is proud of the leadership we have shown in seeking to have our membership policy reviewed. However, we must abide by the National Council's decision, while we continue to seek further consideration," the statement read. "To the best of our knowledge, no one, neither scout nor scouter, in the Narragansett Council has been dismissed due to sexual orientation."

Tim Rich’s last position was as assistant to Bishop Gene Robinson of New Hampshire, the first openly gay bishop in the Episcopal Church. He admits his 10 years in that role shaped his thinking.

"Frankly, the only way there’s going to be systemic change around discrimination when it comes to sexual orientation is when the straight white males are willing to stand up and say, 'This isn’t okay,'" Rich said.

He said he knows how difficult this issue can be for people.

"The rhetoric can get ugly. I mean, I get that people feel passionately about this issue," Rich said. "I want to engage this issue in a way that is respectful. I’m not looking to make a big public stink about this. I want to do this constructively."

To that end, Rich made a distinction between individual scouts and the BSA institution.

"I recognize how many kids are positively formed by their participation in the Scouts, are inspired to do good work by the Scouts. So I would support any individual youth who comes to me to do their God and Country badge, to do their Eagle Scout project or to do community service. I don’t want individual kids to feel like they’re turned away," he said.

"So, I want to support the youth but I want to challenge the institution at the same time."

Rich also noted what he sees as an incongruity in the Scouts policy.

"One of the leading causes for suicide for adolescent boys is as they struggle around sexual orientation and feel ashamed and feel inadequate," he said. "It boggles my mind that an institution that has great concern for the well-being of boys would take a position that is so harmful to a significant percentage of boys.”

Pack 4 East Greenwich is still without a place to meet, Lehoullier said. He said he welcomed any suggestions.

Editor's Note: In the name of full disclosure, readers should know I am a member of St. Luke's Church. In addition, my 19-year-old son was a member of Pack 4 and I was, in fact, one of his den leaders.

Related Topics: Boy Scouts, Bsa, Gays, and Scouting

EGmom

6:27 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

Congratulations to Rector Rich and the leadership at St. Luke's for this compassionate, courageous decision. It's also encouraging to see that our local chapter is working to make the Scouts inclusive. Sadly, we have felt that we've had no choice but to keep our boys from scouting due to the national organization's bigotry.

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Karen Paley

6:49 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

I am very proud of St. Luke's, the site of a meeting I attend weekly where there is no discrimination.

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ratcat1

8:17 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

Two thoughts.....1. How about the troop signing a declaration opposing the national stance, allowing them to stay at St. Luke's and 2. the troop" doesnt check credentials at the door".....maybe they should start, in order to weed out the potential child abusers,who are heterosexual and not homosexual in most cases.I would much prefer a gay couple as my next door neighbor rather than a heterosexual, beer swillin' ,wife beatin',profanity usin' manly man.

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SF

8:28 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

I am so impressed and excited about St Luke's choice to promote equality and stand up against discrimination. I know Pack 4 is not guilty of any wrong doing, it is the organization. We too kept our son out of scouting because of the bigotry.

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eghsgrad

8:43 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

I hope pressure like this keeps up on BSA until they reverse their stance. Nicely done St. Luke's.

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gladys_kravitz

9:01 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

It almost makes me want to rejoin a church. Good for you, St Lukes!

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firefly

9:48 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

Fortunately for these young boys and other young boys around the nation, there are people who are striving for social change in a more positive way. There were many ways that this charter group could have sent a message to national and to the community without affecting the children of this community who have absolutely no control over a nation policy. To exclude a group of people because they exclude a group of people seems to me to be the wrong lesson to teach our children. I have never heard the caring lesbian mothers who are working a a national level to be den mothers ever suggest kicking out scout groups. Fortunately they are more patient. During the time of segregation would you have suggested closing down schools as a method to promote social change? At some point the many people who are working to make things better in a helpful way, will likely succeed in creating a better organization but there will be no organization if everyone acts in a like way. Other sponsors have said, “We don’t agree with every policy of every organization we support, nor would we expect them to agree with us on everything. Our belief is that change at any organization must come from within to be successful and sustainable.” I'd like to thank the groups who patiently support the boys and at the same time have faith that real change is possible.

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T_B_II

10:17 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

Why not make it coed? And, include atheists ... like the church does of course.

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T_B_II

10:17 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

Does the church accept Muslims? If not, it appears they are discriminating!

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Maceo Parker

10:35 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

When Jesus stopped the stoning of the woman accused of being a prostitute, did he tell her "Go and sin no more" before or after he agreed to intercede on her behalf? I don't think a church-any church- can survive by being "exclusive" in order to prove its "inclusiveness".

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firefly

10:40 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

If you shut down scouting in socially liberal states, you should not expect a change in national policy. There will be noone to fight for it!

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Jim Halsband

10:46 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

WOW, I am truly impressed, I hope this story emanating from a quaint little town in NE goes viral! And why not, it is every bit as righteous as our forebear Roger Williams! His freedom of religion stance still reverberates globally! Great move!

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Scouter

10:53 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

So St. Lukes is going to allow gay marriages in the church as well? I don't believe there has ever been one there. If you're going to stand up against scouts, then they must support gay marriage in their church as well right?

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Jimbo

2:24 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Rhode Island doesn't permit same-sex marriage.

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Scouter

3:47 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

They do allow civil unions. Do they allow and has there ever been one there? Any gay priests?

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firefly

4:04 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Scouter, apparently the Episcopal church does not support same sex marriage on a national level. Check a New York Times article which mentions the bishop in the article above and states, "The Episcopal Church’s rules define marriage as a “union of a man and a woman” but also say the clergy must “conform to the laws of the state” governing marriage." This policy seems discriminatory against gays to me as I support gay marriage. But apparently the church is not to be judged on national policy only the boys scouts.

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Scouter

7:04 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Well I guess I'll stop supporting the Episcopal church then since I'm also Episcopal. That way I can punish my local church for the national Episcopal policy even though they have no control over it either. They won't miss a few thousand bucks, no big deal. I'll stop all my volunteering I do for the church as well.

T_B_II

10:59 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

Does the church accept, endorse, encourage polygamy in its membership?

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Jim Halsband

11:04 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

The message is simple, the church is taking a stand against those who hate and vilify. No surprise that those haters in our midst cannot accept this! This church chose to speak out against hate, commendable and courageous!

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EC

8:41 am on Monday, September 3, 2012

Who is being punished here? What lesson is this teaching the 6-11 year old cub scouts who are not even capable of the bias that we all want to change? I agree with and applaud the church's stance on the topic at the national level but I am very disappointed in the way this is being handled locally. I doubt that the national Boy Scout policy makers will even know that St. Luke's is doing this.

Maceo Parker

11:17 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

Do the scouts hate and vilify by expressing their beliefs?
Does the Catholic Church hate and vilify by expressing their beliefs?

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firefly

11:18 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

Jim, there are many people who would like change and work for change especially in this state where noone has ever been removed from scouting for their sexual orientation. This is a very hurtful way to introduce these young boys to gay rights issues. An eye for an eye. But now you've gone on to label people as hateful and hate begets hate as one would expect from the way this group decided to take a stand.

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Jim Halsband

11:50 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

I was condemning those comments which chose to support discrimination, Rector Rich is taking a strong meaningful stand against those who discriminate, somewhere in this morass hate plays a significant role, fear and loathing of something one has no understanding of, I am not gay, but gay bashing is bullying. And sure, there are things that I hate, too, craven terrorists, morally bankrupt bullies, etc. so, you are right that hate begets hate, I feel compelled to stand up for the weak and down-trodden. I think the BSA stance needs to be revisited, they have represented everything that is right in the world and this issue has been disconcerting.

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firefly

12:16 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

At a local level, Jim, there is probably a tiny percentage even in the scouts who support this discrimination. This is not the first charter group to send the boys packing. It probably will not even be noticed at a national level. They just moved the national jamboree location because of this so they've certainly had to make decisions on a larger level. Many times you make changes in the world in small personal ways. The only people who will be impacted are the local children and their families who have no control over national policy. There are much better ways to strive for change, working WITH scouting for change rather than pitting people against each other. I do not think that this will give the boys a positive inroduction to the issue. What a shame.

Scouter

11:18 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

If you ask any scout packs or troops you'll find little support for the National Council's decision but as scouters we feel the program still has it's merits and we never ask scouts sexual orientation or religious beliefs. I guess it's like the military's don't ask/don't tell policy. Maybe the church could have given the pack sufficient notice or let them stay until they find a new place to meet. Not doing so harms the children that don't even know what gay means yet. These are 1st-5th graders mind you. As a cubmaster I would never broach the topic of religion or sexual orientation, even if council asked me to. Scouts do a lot to give back to the community and teach them to be more productive members of society. They learn topics that have been lost in our school system. Many CEOs of major companies are eagle scouts, google it. Since scouting focuses on it's 2 deep leadership and safety rules of scouting, I wish they would change their decision too.

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Maceo Parker

11:29 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

“Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? “Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? “You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye."
Matthew 7:3

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Jean Ann Guliano

12:11 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

TBII - At St. Luke's - ALL are welcome to worship with us and take communion - no exceptions. I think that's the point. ALL are welcome. St. Luke's is abiding by their principals - just as the BSA is abiding by theirs.

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Scouter

12:49 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Jean, so they're welcome to marry in the church as well right? Otherwise you're inviting them to join the church but still discriminating against them aren't you? Heterosexuals are the only ones allow to attend and marry in that case. Do you allow aethists to join the church as well and take communion?

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Elizabeth McNamara

2:45 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Scouter, in July, the Episcopal Church an official liturgy for blessing same-sex unions, enabling priests who have the approval of their bishops to bestow the church’s blessing on gay couples whether they live in a state where same-sex marriage is legal or not.

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Scouter

7:26 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

You mean this, "On July 9, 2012, the Episcopal Church passed a resolution approving an official liturgy for blessing same-sex unions. This liturgy, called “The Witnessing and Blessing of a Lifelong Covenant” offers a blessing close to marriage, but church is clear that it is not marriage. According to Rev. Ruth Meyers, chairwoman of the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music, “There are a lot of similarities. The couple give their consent to being joined in lifelong commitment, they exchange vows. There’s the possibility of exchanging rings, or, for couples who have been together for some time and already have rings, to have their rings blessed. There is a blessing over the couple. But we’re clear at this point that this is not a marriage because the Episcopal Church is not in agreement in its understanding of marriage.” The resolution enables priests to bestow the church’s blessing on gay couples even if they live in a state where same-sex marriage is illegal; however, bishops who do not approve of the liturgy can prohibit their priests from using it. The resolution is provisional and will be reviewed in three years."

Jim Halsband

2:00 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

This is an amazing thread of comments, EG is certainly no microcosm of the US, just the opposite, it was recently cited or noted as being among the richest and for being the stingy-est or least charitable towns, deep pockets and short arms! The wealthy retaining every last dime, charity, no, not this year! There certainly is a correlation to this selfishness and lack of support or tolerance for gays, something needs to be addressed, not sure what it is or how to begin, but there certainly is a stark deficiency of enlightenment. When support weighs in for a politician who advocates that pregnant rape victims give birth and raise the child of the rapist, certainly gives one pause, doesn't it, and that almost half the states have no laws restricting custody for the rapist, well, I just don't know, or maybe it's me being too judgmental. Time for this country to do some reflecting, take a walk in the teenage rape victim's shoes who is being forced to relive the violent rape every minute of her life. Or the gay Cub Scout being ostracized for feelings that he is utterly confused about, has compassion left society or has society lost its compassion.

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Bill Pett

11:32 pm on Sunday, September 2, 2012

I agree about rape victims and feel great concern for Boy Scouts who discover they are gay. However, this issue has little to do with Cub Scouts who are boys in grades 1-5 and probably have not paid much attention to their sexual identities yet-one of the reasons it's so ironic to be raising this issue with Cub Scouts.

Alicarn

2:28 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

I'm very happy to see St. Luke's and Rector Rich take a stand against hate and discrimination but I am even happier to see such positive remarks from fellow EG'ers!

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Jim Halsband

2:47 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Rector Tim Rich put his name right out there! And spoke for his entire congregation, I love it! Freedom of speech in all its glory, thank you Patch.com and for letting the rest of us express our opinions, BUT, I would like Patch to go one step further and promote this freedom by pulling the cloak off those who wish to hide behind a moniker. Let's have everyone be proud of who they are and proud of their opinions by stating who you really are. Let's keep it real, anyone can hide behind a keyboard and bash someone but how about we step out into the light of day, how about it Patch, real names, real people, real opinions! Be first to support true transparency, accountability, and responsibility!

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Bill Pett

2:49 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

I support gay rights and I belong to a church that supports gay rights. I have also had two sons in scouting and served as a volunteer leader in Pack 3 and Troop 2. \I oppose BSA's anti-gay policies, but I also recognize the good things scouting offers, particularly in this area where scouters do not teach homophobia.

I could understand St. Luke's making a long-term decision to ask Pack 4 to move, but pulling the rug out like this at the last minute appalls me. This isn't true liberalism, this is using little boys as pawns. St. Luke's has some things to be ashamed of.

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Jim Halsband

3:09 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

In so far as this impacts the boys, it did not end the club, it simply forced a relocation, and caused a temporary inconvenience. The magnitude has yet to be measured from this learning moment or teaching moment, this is one small headline on Patch from a very small town, but the message is certainly causing a stir, this has the potential of creating a ripple effect in this viral age that just may have an amazing impact. There is a big picture unfolding right here in EG, the scouts themselves are pawns(?) poor choice of words, players(?), maybe, certainly not collateral damage, no injuries whatsoever, but as innocent and pure as the driven snow against a backdrop of anti-gay sentiment at the top! Stay tuned, the show is about to begin! I would pay big bucks to see a cage match at the Swift Gym with Rush Limberger vs. Anderson Cooper! If mainstream media gets a whiff of this, whoa!

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Betty

4:12 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Bill,
This is not a matter of liberalism. I believe it is a wonderful teaching moment, one that could and should be used to preach tolerance. If the national organization is not going to do anything, then it is up to the local ones to take things into their own hands. Clearly, that has not happened. The integrity of the church shone through by their decision. It is probably a minor inconvenience.
I also believe it sends a message to current scouts, who may be struggling with their own sexuality that their life has value, they have nothing to be ashamed of. and it is OK to be who they are.

Tom

3:37 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Two wrongs don't make it right

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Betty

4:03 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

What a wonderful statement made by St. Luke's. When will all religious institutions recognize that we are ALL God's children? I am Jewish, but I believe Jesus would cringe at the intolerance preached by so many religious factions, be they extreme or mainstream.

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firefly

4:18 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

I didn't understand the speck and log story earlier but now I think I get it but can anyone explain to me why the Episcopal church is being judged at a local level and thre scouts are not? Both are kind and compassionate to those with different beliefs. The difference is that the scouts are being condemned for a national anti-gay policy and the Episcopals are not for their policy against gay marriage.

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Jim Halsband

4:42 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

I was thinking about the speck and log thing, too, and am thrilled at the dialogue being generated. The scouts aren't being condemned so much as they are only in the wind of this hurricane, they are being tossed about with no say, the top brass is where the discussion will eventually land, the Episcopals views on marriage are divergent from their compassion for the individuals. Gay marriage is a political football, taxes, inheritance, health care costs, etc, religion does not even seem to factor into any discussion regarding the institution of a marriage license. Rector Rich is David in this developing parable and Goliath got got smacked with a pebble which is begetting some traction. What should eventually shake out is how do the scouts themselves feel about tolerance and compassion to the gay community, one can be certain that theirs will be the voice of reason.

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EC

10:07 am on Monday, September 3, 2012

Jim,

How ironic it was for me to see your David and Goliath analogy. I was thinking of the same analogy, only I had labeled our little cub scouts as David against the Goliath of St. Luke's.

What might seem like a great teaching moment, I'm afraid, might have the wrong effect. My family belongs to one of the most socially liberal churches you can find so my son, who is only 8, has been raised with an all-inclusive way of thinking from the start. If I were to explain to him that his cub scout pack is no longer being allowed to meet at the same location he's been going to since joining as a little tiger cub because the Boy Scout organization has a national policy against gay people, what worries me is that the discrimination at the national level would actually turn him off to scouting. He is a very empathetic kid for his age and might take the side of St. Luke's and wonder why he should be involved in an organization that does not treat everyone equally. While I condemn the BSA stance on this topic, I value the benefits that he gets from scouting to the point where it outweighs my willingness to allow him (or me) to withdraw himself from scouting in order to take a stance against the discrimination.

Mom of 3

4:34 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

I am so proud of St. Luke's. As for the boys themselves, it is an example of what scouting teaches them. That's why so many Eagle scouts turned in their Eagle awards in protest of this policy. Perhaps if the boys and their families agreed and protested the policy, then there would be change from within the organization. I am so tired of discrimination in the name of God and religion, and St.Luke's is rejecting this and affirming what religion is really all about. Accepting all people.

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Bill Pett

5:12 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Actually, it isn't about accepting ALL people. Boys aged 6-10 are not acceptable now because of the actions of a group of adults in Texas. My use above of the word pawn is entirely accurate (and applies equally to the BSA national leaders). Both sides are focused entirely on making points for their agenda. St. Luke's pulling the plug as suddenly as this is more than a minor inconvenience, as anybody who has ever volunteered in a youth organization should know. St. Luke's could easily have asked the Pack to start looking for a new home, allowing them to start their new year while still making their point against homophobia to equal effect.

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Scouter

7:16 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Let's be perfectly clear here. Cubscouts (Cub Scout Pack#4) are children in grades 1-5, none of them are Eagle scouts. Eagle scouts are Boy Scouts, ages 11 - 18, not Cub Scouts Momof3. They don't know what gay means since we don't teach that in scouting. We treat the boys to treat everyone equally, we teach them not to bully others, to teach everyone with respect, to do their best for God and their country. So stop talking about the boys protesting the policy. These kids are less than 10 yrs old. Your proud of St. Lukes for banning these young kids when they themselves discriminate against this same group of people at the national level? Talk about double standards.

Maceo Parker

6:22 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

I'm not sure because the Bible doesn't go into detail....but I wonder....did Jesus tell Matthew he had to stop collecting taxes before he could follow Him or did He welcome all to His table? Obviously, this thinking goes both ways, but who in the story above is representing Jesus Christ and who is the (comparatively speaking) secular organization?

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Tim Webb

6:35 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

I think we need to reflect on what Jesus would have done given analogous circumstances. I don't pretend to be a theologian, but I honestly believe based on what The Bible tells us about Jesus' reaction when in the presence of sinners, and in the presence of children, that he would have embraced these kids, not thrown them out as if they were reviled. Where is the message and the compassion and the love of Jesus in the actions of St. Luke's?

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Jim Halsband

7:07 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Excellent point, and that's why his teachings have lasted for milleniums, there is an amazing lesson coming forth, I have a feeling that it will come from these children, as a previous comment Mom of 3, spoke of some Eagle Scouts. "That's why so many Eagle scouts turned in their Eagle awards in protest of this policy." That speaks volumes, this may wind up where the child is the father to the man, and out of the mouths of babes will come the solution. My money is on the kids to demand policy change for the greater good, pretty safe bet!

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firefly

7:52 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Jim, if an Eagle Scout is able to change policy it will be in spite of the actions of St. Luke's who have jeopardized the town's largest cub scout pack. It will not be because of their political gesture. It will not be because the kids needed " a teaching moment." (how patronizing) It will be because their parents have taught them to respect others even when they disagree. It will be because groups like the scouts have shown them how to be leaders and how to have the courage to make a difference in the community. It might take time and it might take patience. Just like gay Episcopals who are waiting for their church to stop treating them like second class citizens and support gay marriage. But it will happens because even if these children are not being treated with kindness from others they are learning kindness at home.

This will also probably affect the local community kitchen at St. Lukes that boy scouts have worked at for many years. I can't imagine that any boy being comfortable at a church where fellow scouts are unwelcome.

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Justin Katz

7:40 pm on Saturday, September 1, 2012

Tim,

I believe Jesus said, "Let the children come to me." He also said that, where two are three are gathered in His name, He is there. I'm no theologian, either, but it's awfully curious that the rector supports the boys one by one, but not by twos and threes.

The passage about children is miraculously relevant, here (Matthew 19:13). Jesus had just finished explaining why Old Testament rules allowing divorce should not apply to His followers, and the disciples said that the impossibility of divorce meant it would be "better not to marry." He then likens men who cannot abide by such rules to eunuchs.

That's when the children come forward and the disciples attempt to stop them. "The kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."

It's a profound passage.

Jim Halsband

9:53 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

I think that this has been an excellent discussion, lots of constructive opinions, the absence of rancor has been refreshing. The cubbies will find a new den in someone's garage, and they will have been part of this catalytic and galvanizing moment. I do not believe that BSA will continue this bias very much longer, heads at the top will roll before the organization's bottom falls out. The Eagles have spoken and I, for one, have heard them. Humanitarian badges for all of them, and you BSA guys at the top, no soup for you!

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EC

10:17 am on Monday, September 3, 2012

Jim, den meetings are smaller groups of up to 8-10 cub scouts and are frequently held at the homes of the parent volunteers. The larger pack meetings are not because they are in the range of 50 scouts plus the parents.

St. Luke's has been very generous in the sharing of their space for us. I do hope that we can find another equally generous partner that we can both afford and fit into. My fear is that there aren't any local facilities who are going to want to jump into this controversial fire. Accepting us into their space will be construed by many as condoning the national BSA policy at this point.

Jan and Sam Hopp

11:09 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

My and husband and I attend St. Luke's and we are very proud of Rev. Tim Rich and the vestry to stand against the BSA's decision to discriminate against gays. My husband is an Eagle Scout and I was cub scout leader in my home years ago. It has been too long in coming that the leaders and scouts should stand against their un-Christian hierarchy that pretend to be honorable stewards of God's words to be our brother's keeper and to honor God's wishes. It is time for the Scouting organization to fight these rules and follow God's commands for He created us all!

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firefly

12:02 am on Saturday, September 1, 2012

Jan, the church is now discriminating against children because of their affliations. An earlier commentor stated that he didn't think that Jesus would have reviled the children. ALL are supposed to be welcome but they are not welcome. Do you think that is a Christian policy? Do you think that the church has gone about this the right way, not giving the pack any notice?

How do you feel about the Episcopal churches lack of support for gay marriage on a national level? I support gay marriage so I think it is wrong not to and it does seem a bit pot kettle to me.

This church would like the boys to change national BSA policy but what are this churches plans to change national Episcopal policy? Gay Episcopals are saying that they are patient but they are tired of being second class citizens within the church.

Anonymous

11:51 pm on Friday, August 31, 2012

Local scout groups give a lot to Saint Luke's, this is a shame this had to happen. Often times scouts are seen at the local Saint Luke's dinners, lending a hand. Troop 2 EG also made a great donation to the church to help with their dinners. So now will the church turn away people who strive to help the community and the church? I think this could have been resolved in another way, but an inconvenience to a cub group can greatly effect other Troops and packs in the area, as it goes, " a threat one is a threat to all". I think hurting kids in a youth group is not the way to solve a large issue eminant in the program. My personal opinion is let BSA do as it wishes. No one tells you how to run your family or the way you do things. Also look at the situation from a standpoint of a scout...

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Jim Halsband

12:45 pm on Sunday, September 2, 2012

There are certain familial guidelines that must be adhered to, but aside from that no one can tell you how to run your family. Mel Gibson has enjoyed incredible success financially, he was raised by a stone-cold anti-Semitic holocaust denying father, and his drunken tirades prove it over and over, exemplified by this comment to Jewish actress Winona Ryder, "so, you're an oven-dodger", so you are right, families can do whatever they want within their confines. But, in a structured organization such as BSA, when marching orders are issued from the top, those attitudes trickle down to the bottom, and this is one attitude that needs stark revision. By tacitly or unwittingly approving these ideologies of the top brass allows this to continue unabatedly, Rector Rich threw down the gauntlet, he, with the approval of his flock, said, sorry kids, but the adults in your midst need to see the error of their ways, hat's off to the Rector!

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firefly

1:27 pm on Sunday, September 2, 2012

Jim, Perhaps he would like to walk the walk and stop all marriages at the church (a la Brad and Angelina) until everyone can be married. If all churches did that, then gay marriage would be legal today. I would think that having the right to marry is far more important than being able to join a camping organization. Just giving blessings seems that it may be counterproductive to progress on the gay marriage front since some people may think that that is good enough.

Katie

8:46 pm on Sunday, September 2, 2012

In 2014, the leadership of the excutive board of the Boy Scouts will change. AT&T CEO Randall Stephenson will be taking over leadership. Stephenson and other members such as Ernst & Young CEO James Turley have vowed to make the Boy Scouts more gay friendly. These CEO are in charge of companies that have won praise from activists for their policies on gay rights. Perhaps everyone could just be patient and support these young folks until the opportunity for change arises in 2014.

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Jim Halsband

9:30 pm on Sunday, September 2, 2012

That renders the previous 54 comments moot, now doesn't it, and should these new CEO's deliver as suggested, maybe Rector Rich may reconsider and restore privileges in light of this new information, a temporary stay until such time as the new CEO's fail to deliver, which seems unlikely. Thank you, Katie, for this contribution!

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Katie

10:19 pm on Sunday, September 2, 2012

Thank you for your kind words Jim. I only wish that their could have been a conversation with the scouting community before the decision was made. I'm sure that this information could have been shared. My only concern is for the kids and how people will treat them. I don't want them to be worried to wear their scout uniforms.

Justin Katz

9:55 pm on Sunday, September 2, 2012

"Let the children come to me."

Unlike those who've sued Christian-run businesses for declining to host same-sex weddings and such, I believe everybody should be able to determine access to their own property. But this reeks of political vanity... hurting local children, explicitly ostracizing them as unworthy to gather on church property (which, I gather, is available for other non-Episcopal activities),to make a statement with little reach beyond the East Greenwich Patch. And that with minimal warning and no effort, at least as reported, to help in locating a new meeting place.

Throwing down the "gauntlet" is one thing. Throwing it in the faces of children is quite another.

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firefly

2:06 am on Monday, September 3, 2012

Justin, I think it is a sign of the times for people to think that that they can be as hateful as they want to be with people who think differently. There was always something innately wrong with the decisions made by this church. It is frightening that so many did not see it and maybe still don't. It is never right to fight discrimination with discrimination. To all those who are proud of this, did it ever concern you that children were being harmed? That the church was trying to shame a bunch of little kids in order to make a political statement that noone outside this town would ever know about. That scouts were still going to be allowed to work in the church but not in their evil scout uniforms. That some of the kids are now worried about how people will treat them. Doesn’t that seem like bullying! That there was no effort to help the over 50 boys in the cub scout pack find a new meeting place because their well being doesn’t matter.

If you’re not going to follow the Bible, go read the Seven Habits where you will learn important principals such as: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. You could have learned about the upcoming President of BSA and his commitment to end the ban on gays if you had.

I am so angry because these kids are going to have to walk down Main St. on Veteran’s Day and some of them are going to be afraid. As Bill Pett rightly said, "St. Luke's has some things to be ashamed of."

Scouter

10:05 pm on Sunday, September 2, 2012

Buch of hypocrites! You discriminate against gays just like the BSA! God job taking it out on 6 ye olds hope youre all very proud! I know Jesus would be, way to love your neighbors as thyself!

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Katie

10:07 pm on Sunday, September 2, 2012

More on Randall Stephenson, AT&T CEO and the next President of the executive board of the Boy Scout (2014). He is not only supports an end to the ban but is committed to ending it. AT&T has a 100% ranking on HRC’s Corporate Equality Index, and has been honored as a top place to work for LGBT employees. In addition, AT&T has active LGBT employee groups. Banned Den mother Jennifer Tyrrell says of Stepheson's imminent rise, “This is a huge new development and could mean that the Boy Scouts are preparing to end this anti-gay policy sooner rather than later. I’m very impressed with Mr. Stephenson’s leadership and his new commitment to helping the Boy Scouts stop discriminating, a position that is totally consistent with AT&T’s record as a champion of fairness and equality in the workplace.” The next opportunity for change could actually be as early as 2013. If you would like to help, sign Jennifer Tyrrell's petition on change.org

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Jim Halsband

10:45 am on Monday, September 3, 2012

Several of EC's comments were to me, and this forum doesn't allow replies to replies, as I was trying to step away from the mic, but would like to speak to those comments. David and Goliath, both of our views are solid, because neither is a perfect fit, but still quite sound, you could even factor in a little King Solomon and the two women-one baby story, as Rector Rich essentially put the cubbies out there to make his point, knowing that the sword would never come down, but would instead bring truth to the forefront. Almost like Romney's callous sounding remark, "I'm not concerned about the really poor, they have their safety nets" I haven't viewed the cubbies as collateral damage because their inconvenience will be rectified, and they were not holding the slingshot that slew Goliath, although one could view the cubbies as the stone that took down the beast. One thing that I am absolutely certain about is that the kids will find a new place to gather, I didn't realize that there are 50 or so, 50 years ago we had maybe 10, but if there is one thing you can count on is that this group of scouts and leaders is ALL about resourcefulness, if they have to pitch tents on Academy Field, they will do what it takes to hold the Pack together. My hope is that the new BSA leadership will restore those Eagles who sacrificed their awards in protest, and to address those concerned that these kids are too young to gain from this lesson, maybe so, but they will remember being party to it.

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Justin Katz

12:28 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

It's supposed to be "let the children come to me," not "hurt the kids so the adults pay attention."

Ends justifying means is Marxism, not Christianity. Shame on you for your rationalizations, although perhaps it's not surprising to see liberal Christians returning to the Old Testament for justification.

EC

10:48 am on Monday, September 3, 2012

Thank you, Katie! We all seem to disagree with the national "don't ask, don't tell" policy of the BSA, but we are stuck on the local decision of St. Luke's and how it is negatively impacting our local cub scouts.

I mentioned in an earlier post that the national BSA administration will probably not even hear about the St. Luke's decision. But, why shouldn't they? A more productive action would be for us all to sign Zach Wahls’ petition on change.org (Boy Scouts: Stop the secrecy! Allow your Board to VOTE to end the ban on gay scouts and leaders) and the ones Katie mentions by Jennifer Tyrrell (“CEO of AT&T: Urge the Boy Scouts to Drop Ban on Gay Leaders and Troops” and “Boy Scouts of America: Reinstate Cub Scout leader who was removed for being gay”). We can share these petitions on our Facebook pages. We can even write old fashioned letters to the BSA:
Bob Mazzuca is the chief executive and Wayne Perry is national president of the Boy Scouts of America. The HQ address is:

The National Boy Scouts of America
1325 W. Walnut Hill Lane
Irving, Texas 75015-2079

Whether you have children in scouting or not, these are things we can all do to help change the policy. Kicking our young cub scouts out of St. Luke's won't have a direct impact. I suspect that the St. Luke's decision makers hoped that an indirect grass roots effort might result, and while I might not agree with St. Luke's approach, I can't argue with their desired outcome.

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Katie

12:04 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

EC, I have to say that I am not as confident that they will get the desired outcome. I find it to be a risky approach. I think that they have made the kids the focus of the problem, the ones who have to take the blame for the policy, and there is a possibilty however tiny that a political zealot could target them. I think that St. Lukes has a responsibility to diffuse the situation. I really hope that someone from that community is still reading this article.

Jim, please do not call them cubbies. That seems demeaning and though they are young they do have their own dignity.

Jan and Sam Hopp

12:31 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

FIREFLY, how about flying out into the light of day rather than hiding being a tiny "firefly". Show your face rather than the cowardly way of calling yourself "firefly". Why not host these cub scouts in your own home as I did many years ago? We went to many interesting places, that included the cub scouts climbing all over the National Guard helicopters at Quonset, visiting the State house in session, making homemade kites and many other wonderful projects. Or why don't you offer your church for the activities if you see nothing wrong with the discrimination against gays? Science has now confirmed that gays are born this way with the blessing of God who created them! Who is worthy of condemning them?? Does that please God?? Frankly, the groups are too large and would be better to be broken into neighborhood dens as we did. But, that would require moms and dads to do a little extra in hosting them in their homes. Is anyone up to the task?

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firefly

12:53 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

Jan and Sam, I have already hosted and do host cub scouts in my home. I have already offered my church which truly accepts all even those with differing beliefs as a possible host. I have already stated in this thread that I support gay rights including gay marriage. I have already said that I wish for change in a positive and patient way. I have already personally spoken to some members of your church. Is there anything else?

Jim Halsband

12:32 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

I stand corrected, did not realize it was demeaning, my comments were nothing less than totally supportive of the pack, so no apology will be forthcoming, but I am earnestly appreciative to Katie for her most germane and enlightening contributions to this thread.

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Jan and Sam Hopp

1:17 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

FIREFLY, Why don't you come out into the light of day? Without that, who can verify your claims? If your church has agreed to be the host, then the situation is resolved. We believe St. Luke's felt it was supporting this policy of continued descrimation. But, the BSA policy needs to change NOW (not patiently, as "patiently" has gone on way too long! That is the true discrimination. Why don't you start an immediate petition to the BSA NOW throughout East Greenwich in all the public places to get the BSA to have these descriminatory leaders resign so that the policy can be changed at once?

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firefly

1:24 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

Jan and Sam, are you trying to bully me? Is that how things work? I was very patient throughtout this thread until I found out about the hypocrisy of your own church with regards to gay rights. My child is in Pack 4 if you are going to sit in judgement and harm the kids, your own house should be clean. If I trusted that you would be Christian like in manner, I would be happy to tell about myself. What is your plan to send me Christmas cards or something more personal and hostile? He who has not sinned cast the first stone.

David M. Pepin

1:23 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

Instead of the church having to ban the troop (which you know those on the right will pounce upon as making kids suffer for the politics of adults), with many Scout leaders against this ridiculous anti-gay policy, how about if the church and troop stand together in criticism/defiance of the national board's policy? Sure, national may try to pull the troop's charter, but then they would be the ones denying the kids the benefits of Scouting. You know some in the media will try to make Pastor Rich the villain in this. Instead, let the national organization be the villain if they want to enforce this misbegotten policy.

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Bill Pett

5:00 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

I don't know that anybody in this discussion has supported discrimination against gays, but Jan and Sam are now suggesting that Firefly,or anyone else who would be willing to host Cub Scouts must therefore support discrimination against gays. That's not just false, it's classically false. In logic it's called a false dichotomy, a variation on "if you're not with me you're against me." Or in other words, if you don't agree with me on how to achieve the desired end, you opposed that goal. People of good will can disagree on how to accomplish good ends. LEt's get away from making false accusations like that.

I also want to note that making blithe assumptions that relocating the pack is no big deal are unrealistic and incredibly annoying to anyone who has ever volunteered time to run such youth organizations. If St. Luke's had allowed them to continue to use the space for a while so they would have time to find a space, that would have been civilized. Trying to line up a space quickly when recruiting time is coming up is not something you can laugh off, although I suppose it's easy when people are filled with self-righteousness and busily patting themselves on the back for their supposed goodness.

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Heather Tibbitts

9:40 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

Bill Pett, I think you are are misconstruing their comments. If a person or group decides they do not feel strongly about the BSA's position, then they can host the dens/packs in their home or facility (as Jan & Sam suggested). St. Luke's does feel strongly, and has therefore decided to end their relationship with the organization. The BSA had an opportunity to amend their policy this summer and chose not to do so.

I would also suggest everyone re-read the article above. Fr. Tim was clear that he and St. Luke's will continue to support individual Scouts. Scouts are free to go to him for the God and Country badge, Eagle projects, or community service, and are welcome at St. Luke's. I believe there was an attempt to strike a balance between supporting the individual Scouts and supporting the organization as a whole. We can disagree on the extent to which that was accomplished, but there is no need for the vitriol that I see in many comments here (on both sides). Full disclosure: I am also a member of St. Luke's and support the decision to take a stand.

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Katie

6:56 am on Tuesday, September 4, 2012

I sorry. I know that you have directed this at Bill, Heather, but I think that it is extremely important considering the predicament that the cub scouts in. You said "If a person or group decides they do not feel strongly about the BSA's position, then they can host the dens." But you cannot speak for the new hosts. By choosing to host this cub scout pack, the next host may not be making ANY statement on national BSA policy. Or the next host could be making a statement on the next BSA President, Randall Stephenson. This summer he committed himself to ending the ban. They might be saying "We have always been troubled by the ban on gays, but because since he has a perfect record on gay rights issues we have faith that the next president will keep his word to end the ban and we want to support the boys as they enter this new era." Or they might be honoring loved ones who were members of the scouts. Or maybe they do not associate a group of local boys with a particular national policy. One does not represent the other for them. You have chosen that representation for yourselves but certainly it isn’t something that everyone agrees on. It could be anything. Only they will know the answer as to why they are hosting.

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Heather Tibbitts

7:30 am on Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Katie, I do agree that a host may not intend to make any statement, or that other factors may or find other factors weigh more heavily in their decision. Each host must decide themselves. Thank you for the opportunity to clarify my comment.

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Katie

10:36 am on Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Thank you, Heather. I do not mean to be confrontational. I do support your right to ask them to leave and respect that you have your own opinions. For the future of these scouts, I just hope that the next host will also be respected in the same way. It is very likely in this area that a host will support the scouts and not the ban. One person who has similar beliefs said, "I believe Boy Scouts is a valuable organization that has helped educate and build character in American boys for more than a century,” And with regards to the ban he says that he also opposes discrimination in all forms, and as such opposes this policy that discriminates on basis of sexual orientation. Of course he is the BSA's Honorary President, President Barack Obama.

Jean Ann Guliano

6:57 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

I am a member of St. Luke’s and I support Fr. Tim and the Vestry’s decision one hundred percent. With regard to the children, themselves, I would rather be criticized for my support of this policy than allow anyone to feel abandoned and unwanted for being gay. As a mother, I wouldn’t ever want any young person to feel like they don’t belong just because of who they are. That’s why I support this decision.

I cannot speak to the timing regarding when the decision was made, when they notified the scouts, or how soon the scouts will need space. However, as a member of the community, I am sorry if this has been disruptive for these young people. I know how challenging it is to keep them out of issues like this.

Regarding meeting space, there are many public options for meeting space at the schools, Swift Community Center, rec building and the police station. I believe the school department still makes a special exception for the scouts to use any of the school buildings with the normal usage fee waived. However, there may be an additional fee if the activity is held on the weekends. For the school facilities, Contact Bob Wilmarth at 398-1241 or rwilmarth@egsd.net. For Swift Community Center or the rec building, contact Cathy Bradley at 86-8626 or cbradley@eastgreenwichri.com; and for the police station community room, contact Deb Gregory at 38-1241 or dgregory@eastgreenwichri.com. I certain these people will go out of their way to help find a space.

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Jean Ann Guliano

6:59 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

As a last comment, I personally know many of the bloggers in this discussion such as Jim Halsband, Bill Pett and Justin Katz. They are all fine people and I respect their views. There are some issues for which it is very difficult to find common ground. However…as a community, we can come together and make sure the kids have a place to meet. We can support our houses of worship for standing by their beliefs. And, as individuals, we can continue to work towards making sure that no child, adolescent, young adult or adult is ostracized or made to feel less than because of their sexual orientation. This truly is the civil rights issue of our era and I don’t apologize for taking a stand against it.

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Justin Katz

8:39 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

My entry into this discussion was entirely with regard to Rector Rich's action, which I find to have been abominable. Keep in mind that he was a close associate of the figure whose elevation to bishop caused international controversy, bordering on schism, within his Church. Not being an Episcopalian, I'm not inclined to offer opinion on that matter, here, but I would suggest that application of that approach on the local level is like applying a giant spike in the heart of a community.

On the broader debate, though, I wonder whether due consideration is being given to the predicament that the Boy Scouts face. For the Cub Scouts, sexual orientation is absolutely irrelevant, I'd say, for both the scouts and the participating adults, inasmuch as den mothers are allowed and I believe reasonable people (Rector Rich perhaps excluded) will agree that it would be inappropriate to propagandize children of that age in either direction as part of scouting.

But as a former teenage boy and a former Boy Scout, I'd suggest that it doesn't evidence bigotry to think that special care must be taken when absorbing certain examples of "social evolution." It's well and good to proclaim the "civil rights issue of our era," but we risk losing sight of messy human reality in our righteousness.

What a shame that we can't have a candid public discussion of such matters.

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Jim Halsband

11:51 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

You certainly are handing out lots of shame, but I am not ashamed of returning to the Old testament for justification, that's all I know, sorry you mistook and mis-stated this liberal Jew for a liberal Christian, and nor am I a Marxist. Let's put this issue in a different context, a more extreme context yet strikingly relevant in nature, if the BSA administration banned a different group, not gays but for a more stark and obvious purpose of argument, let's say Jews for example, and Rector Tim Rich disallowed the Cub Scouts use of St. Luke's facility based on this discriminatory policy, would this still be an abominable act on his part. Not in my opinion. The good Rector stood up for those discriminated against, period! I'm sure that there were some darling and innocent boys in grades 1-5 in the Hitler Youth movement who knew not what the hell was going on at the higher levels. Rector Tim Rich subscribes to a higher order that understands that "all that is necessary for evil to triumph is that good men do nothing". He is a good man who chose to do something! Unpopular to a few, courageous and great to others like me. My choice of analogy was carefully weighed and measured for the greater argument, it is rare that I play that card unless I am played for a fool! Jean Ann and Katie have presented the key tools for sending the message to where the buck stops, excellent contributions on their parts.

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Justin Katz

6:42 am on Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Oh, yes. What support we show for the individual Cub Scouts (not to mention their parents) by comparing them with Hitler Youth! Perhaps the good rector will take the lead in spitting on them as they walk in the street... but only if they're in uniform, of course.

Your analogy falls apart for a number of reasons. For one, the Boy Scouts did not implement this policy over the summer; they affirmed it. They are not introducing something new; rather, they are not changing fast enough to suit radicals. Second, the Boy Scouts are an independent, private group with a long pedigree interwoven with values that many people consider constituent and critical in our nation's history, not an upstart nationalist movement formed under the aegis of a hostile political party. Third, as little as lockstep liberals wish to admit it, groups that are minorities for different reasons merit different considerations. None attack the Boy Scouts for not sending our teenage daughters out camping with the boys for a week; the point isn't that homosexuals and women are the same, but that groups have defining characteristics that shouldn't simply be ignore in the cause for self righteousness. (But one suspects that there's more to dislike of the Boy Scouts than this particular policy.)

Your analogy, itself, illustrates the harm and error in what Rich has done, and I hope those who see the "respect the individual" line as persuasive will reconsider on its basis.

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Jim Halsband

12:57 pm on Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Yeah, you are right, we can't have a candid public discussion when you insist on spinning and demeaning others' thoughts and analogies to suit your own narrow ideologies. We both have over-expressed our views, time to let others take the floor.

Jean Ann Guliano

8:59 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

Katie, I cannot speak for Father Tim, but I believe he felt the need to act because of the re-affirmation of the policy issued by the BSA on July 17th. For me, I simply believe that any house of worship, in this case, St. Luke’s, has the right to make their own decisions with regard to support for an organization (ie: allowing them to use their facilities). The individual scouts and their families are always, always welcomed, embraced and accepted for who they are. By the way, we have a scout working on his Eagle Project who is trying to help kids in the Dominican Republic by collecting backpacks and school supplies – there is a drop off box at St. Luke’s if anyone can donate something.

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Katie

9:38 pm on Monday, September 3, 2012

Thanks Jean Ann, I removed my comment because I thought twice about questioning you on that. And I also thought that I should not minimize your effort on this by suggesting that your group was late to the fight. Again thank you for your years of service. This could be resolved within a year with the new BSA leadership. Let's all pray for that. I'm very sad for that Eagle Scout candidate and his family though. Very difficult for those who remain. And I think you know in your heart that it will not work that way. Individuals will not feel welcome when the greater family is shut out.

Katie

2:52 am on Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Jean Ann and Heather, I think that you are missing an important piece of the dynamic, probably the most important part. You do not seem to be recognizing the great importance of the intermediary. You move between the individual and whole. Think of it in three levels. the individual, the band of brothers and the tribe. Individuals can achieve their own glory but they often focused on work for their band and they learn to trust each other through common challenges. They're a team. No individual can succeed while their band fails. Enter into the picture the band of little brothers. The band of big brothers teaches the little ones and is responsible for them. Obviously the band of little brothers grows up to be the big ones. Probably only every four years when the entire tribe meets does the band of brothers even think about or feel like part of the tribe. You have just removed a band of brothers, for a tribal policy while still supporting individuals. The boys who would ask you for individual help are Boy Scouts. You are telling them that their band of little brothers, part of their scout family, is not welcome in their church family. Also the cub scouts you ask to leave today are the ones who will or would have (that is the question) have asked church for help tomorrow. There are a lot of interdependencies. It can feel very complicated in the real lives of people.

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Bill Pett

5:15 pm on Tuesday, September 4, 2012

I don't want to say much more unless I have something new to say, but I have to respond to Heather's statement that I misconstrued the Hopps' comment. They invited Firefly to take the pack in and said, specifically, "if you see nothing wrong with the discrimination against gays." That's a pretty clear condemnation against anyone who finds a home for the pack. And it's still a logical fallacy--someone can want to work with Cub Scouts or find a home for Cub Scouts and still be opposed to homophobia quite strongly. It is a false statement to say that anyone who believes in a goal must agree with one particular strategy to achieve that goal, or that anyone who rejects a particular strategy must not feel strongly about the issue (to use Heather's approximate words). What gives anyone the right to say that?

On a couple of other angles: one of the biggest progblems in tackling this issue, a problem that no one has mentioned so far, is that many people of faith do believe that homosexuality is a moral flaw, for example Catholic, Mormon, and probably some or many fundamentalist Protestant churches and even synagogues. If BSA does liberalize under new leadership, the best we can probably hope for is a local option for indidual troops and packs--anything further would drive many churches out of the organization. Is that such a good thing? Do we want to move more and more to an America where people who disagree can't work together?

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Katie

9:54 pm on Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Bill, your second paragraph is very significant. And I would think it would parrallel the difficulties people of faith have on supporting gay marriage. There is another conclusion to be drawn from the BSA problem though. I have read that with the new president and AT&T CEO R. Stephenson, the BSA might risk the change and the Mormon money because the deep pockets of AT&T would easily make up for the fiscal gap. AT&T is already in it for the long haul as the recent heros of new Summit Bechtel Reserve investing a considerable amount into it's completion. And while Stephenson is committed to the cause the one who is truly passionate and the one to watch is Ernst & Young CEO James Turley.

On a local level, Mr. Pett, I have heard that there are some gays who are supporting accepting the cub scouts into their churches including a former scout leader. I have to say I am not surprised. Good eggs.

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Bill Pett

1:21 pm on Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Katie, what you say about the coming new leadership in BSA is interesting and encouraging. Where has that been written up?

I do think a proposal for local option is more likely than one that would essentially disqualify Mormon, Catholic and other churches from sponsoring troops, and a better direction for now.

An additional reason for me to keep my boys in scouting in spite of my objections to some policies is that I wouldn't want them growing up in such a "sheltered" world that they only know people who think like our family, vote like us, and worship like us. I think more and more that our national survival may depend on re-learning how to disagree.

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Katie

11:51 pm on Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Bill, I will sort through my history list for the article. Regarding options, while I hated it at first (I'd rather just be done and remove the ban) I love it now after some thought. If groups could choose the type of charter, say red vs. blue say (wink), It would actually be the easiest way to get the greatest amount of change. If you did that, groups who don't ever enforce the ban could live authentically. Enrollment would increase for them and I think that those groups would thrive.

Removing the ban on the scouts is not like desegregation IMHO. When places of work, transportation and education were opened to all, you had to learn to get along. But scouts is just an extra in a boy’s life and one in which you sleep away from home for a week at a time. Records of successful and safe programs could allay some of the fears (or a least make them difficult to justify) of groups that were on the fence concerning the ban. Some groups, especially the Mormons, who are a whopping 12 percent of the scouts, would most likely keep the ban. And maybe that's alright too. Maybe not a lot of gays would want to be their leader any way. And by declaring your type, you could get the best fit for your charter group.

If you had make change across the board, you could probably do it in stages starting with lifting the ban on the den mothers. Lesbianism is the least threatening and children are with parents on sleep aways. Second step, den dads.

Patch, I wish we had an edit button.

Katie

12:18 am on Thursday, September 6, 2012

And regarding diversity of thought, we are on the same page. I think that it is so important for growth. I actually seek it out too. Which is why I consider Harrison Bergeron is a horror movie. But some people like conformity. I think that it is comforting or helps their confidence. And when people think of their political bent, it’s usually just left or right and doesn’t take into consideration authoritarian vs. libertarian. The decision here seemed more authoritarian rather than libertarian to me. More Pope John Paul II than Gandhi. When you spoke of it not being truly liberal I think that that is where you might have had a disconnect. I think that they might have been viewing it on a linear scale rather than a political compass.

We do need to learn to disagree and listen to what the other person is saying, Maybe it;s too much TV. Actually yours and Justin's post were the most interesting to me and I think you are quite different politically. I've popped over to his blog and I thought it was thought-inspiring like his posts. I bet the you two would have worthy debates.

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Katie

1:01 am on Thursday, September 6, 2012

Regarding scouts, I don't find it to be very political so I'm not sure I'd classify it as expanding our horizons. I also don't feel that I need to justify my participation. I probably should. It's probably a bit of stubborn independence but I feel more connected to my region than the nation and as you said we don't teach homophobia here. And when a boy does discover he is gay, I have not seen it be a problem here. He seems to be protected.

The Story of the Almost Banning at Yawgoog Scout Camp. Some time ago, a boy came out at Yawgoog and they were going to have him leave for it. When his mates discovered this, they devised a plan. All of the boys on staff walked off the job to support him and they had to let him stay. THAT is the Band of Brothers. It is what boys seek in scouts and what they fight to keep. It's just their nature. And it is because of incidences like the Almost Banning that make it seem simply wrong IMO to punish the boys for the opinions of adults. If the gay boys are being protected, I would hope that openly gay men could wait it out since they are adults and not ruin the fun for the boys.

The other challenge when a boy discovers that he is gay is the same for all of the boys. They're just busy with their boyfriends and girlfriends. Other things seem more important.

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Bill Pett

11:35 am on Thursday, September 6, 2012

Seeing how comfortable the younger generation has become with gays coming out is one reason to have hope for the future.

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Katie

12:39 pm on Thursday, September 6, 2012

When the high school kids formed the Gay and Straight Alliance a couple years ago, I remember adults being worried and measures were put in place to support the kids. One of the adults said after to me that they thought it was going to be this big deal but it wasn't anything. Noone cares and now the it is a vibrant club and they work on all sorts of projects. It seems that the kids are two steps ahead of us on progress and I hate to insert the negativity and issues of the adult world into the progressive one of the kids.

Katie

12:06 am on Saturday, September 8, 2012

Bill, Best BSA Discrimination Web Site
http://www.bsa-discrimination.org/index.html
and Blog
http://www.bsa-discrimination.org/blog/
Check out last months "Inclusive BSA? LGBT Youth" and "Inclusive Councils" and "Returning an Eagle Award"

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Katie

12:08 am on Saturday, September 8, 2012

Can't find other article, Bill. Excerpt from "Inclusive Councils"
http://www.bsa-discrimination.org/blog/2012/08/03/inclusive-councils/

"In 2001, the presidents from the largest BSA councils (Boston, Chicago, Los Angeles, Philadelphia, New York, San Francisco, and Minneapolis) drafted a resolution that would ban sexual orientation discrimination within the BSA. The BSA’s professional staff was adamantly opposed to any change in their discrimination policies and sent letters to council scout executives attacking these volunteer BSA leaders and telling professional scouters to oppose the resolution.

By February 2002, the BSA rejected any and all calls to drop its discrimination policies. This rejection was problematic for many of the councils who signed off on the 2001 resolution. In an effort to stem the exodus of community support (financial and otherwise) from their local program, many of these councils adopted “non-discrimination,” “inclusive,” or “tolerance” policies. The news media bought these policies as evidence that the local councils were defying the national council in Texas and that openly gay scouts were accepted as members. Not so fast!.

Two of these councils – Philadelphia and Boston – attempted to adopt a non-discrimination policy that included sexual orientation. They were threatened by the BSA national council of having their council charter revoked, if they continued with their non-discrimination policy,"

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Jacques

1:20 pm on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Scouter,
Perhaps it never occurred to you that these boys (ages 6 to 10) may, in fact, know what gay means--some of them know children raised by gay or lesbian parents, have gay or lesbian relatives, and there are certainly LGBT role models in sports, entertainment, politics, history. My 7-year old son not only knows what gay means, he knows that the Boy Scouts do not welcome his parents and many of their close friends as members. No one is calling for the dissolution of Pack 4, but when the Boy Scouts reaffirmed their discriminatory policy, local councils probably should have had a contingency plan re: meeting space.

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